Subtle changes can bring results in the new year!

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“Sometimes subtle changes can bring dramatic results. So instead of running, there are times when you can walk and still reach your destination.” Dr. G Speaks

Okay, it’s a new year and almost everyone has some resolutions, right? We’ve made plans to lose weight, break bad habits, change direction or try to do something new or different that we hope that will change our lives. But are we setting ourselves up for failure or is success just over the next horizon?

If you’re tired of making resolutions and setting goals only to be disappointed with your progress, I’ve got some news that may shake your world. I recently discovered something so simple that I hope it will bring you new vision in the new year. This may not be for everyone but if it works for you, take it and run with it!

Last year, I decided to cut down on my sugar intake. I am the first born of seven children and my family has a history of diabetes and heart disease. Two much younger brothers are on dialysis and my father died an early death as a dialysis patient. I didn’t want those maladies to live with me so I knew I had to make some major life changes.

I loved chocolate so I decided to limit my eating of chocolate. Notice, I did not say stop. Instead of eating my five mini chocolate bars each day, I only ate two. After a week, I ate only one. It was hard but within a two weeks, my desire subsided. At the end of a month, it was nearly gone. My size 12 (I was once in a 20W) began to fit again and my energy increased. I even started walking more regularly. The pain in my knees even disappeared!I still eat desserts but not in the same way. Instead of my desire managing me, I manage it.

So here’s my question, instead of making resolutions or setting goals, why don’t you try just making subtle changes? Instead of saying that you will lose the weight, try cutting down on sugar. Skip dessert for a week. If you’re able to make that subtle change, then you are not setting yourself up for the failure. If you stumble for one day, don’t beat yourself up and give up. Start again the next day. It’s like cutting your destination into bite size pieces that are more easily managed. And if you are consistent, you will lose weight.

It’s called developing a new process instead of setting goals. When many of us fail to reach our goals, we consider it failure. But if we focus on process (eliminating one dessert per day) that subtle change will garner results! So whatever you want to achieve in this new year, remember that it should become a part of your daily routine instead of the focal point of your life.

Remember…You are the ultimate artist of your life’s canvas. Others can only help you mix the colors you already have in your palette. Why not paint a new process instead of setting goals you may not achieve.

Making changes and handling your business is hard work and you cannot do it alone. Remember, I’m here to help!

Contact Dr. G for your coaching session so you can handle your business where you do business!

©2014 – “Dr. G Speaks” – Dr. Gail Hayes


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Getting it Done – Step III – Execution

firstchoicephotodrG_n“Execution only comes after one listens and understands. Once one listens and understands, they can grasp something wonderful. They can then see a vision that they can follow or one where they have no choice but to lead.” Dr. G Speaks

There are few things more powerful than a leader who listens. Once you listen and understand, then and only then can you see the vision unfold before you. Getting it done also means getting clarity. If you don’t listen and understand, then execution is impossible. Wise leaders understand that they cannot carry a vision alone.

If you get nothing else from these blog posts, get this: Any vision worth fighting for or achieving is too large for one set of shoulders. It will take several sets of shoulders to carry a vision and see it through to execution. One of the most critical facets of execution is allowing others to share in the vision. Oftentimes, you will have to learn to trust those who appear to be untrustworthy. You may have to work with those you do not like. You may even have to rely on those who appear to be incompetent. Even if all these things ring true, as a wise leader, you can learn to extract or separate what you need and still move forward.

It doesn’t mean that you have to waste your time and energy. It just means that in the execution phase, you will encounter many people with many gifts.  You just have to KNOW what you’re looking for and then you can make wise decisions. Remember the steps of Listening, Understanding, and Execution when you are ready to undertake something. These three powerful steps will never lead you in the wrong direction.

Getting it done and handling your business is hard work and you cannot do it alone. Remember, I’m here to help!

Contact Dr. G for your coaching session so you can handle your business where you do business!

©2013 – “Dr. G Speaks” – Dr. Gail Hayes

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Getting it Done…Step II

firstchoicephotodrG_n“Understanding gives you the power to make wise choices. It is the glue that adheres wisdom to communication.” Dr. G Speaks

After you’ve taken time to listen, you’re ready to move to the next step; understanding. Understanding is the glue that adheres wisdom to communication. When you understand how a person best communicates, then you can wisely “speak their language” and connect with them. When you understand the mode of communication necessary to connect, you can enter their world, riding on conversation’s wings. That’s a gift not everyone receives because there are people who refuse to embrace the necessary patience to forge a relationship or to find common ground.

Once you grasp the power of connective communication, you can bravely cross over understanding’s bridge into unknown territory. You then have the ability to discover something new. And guess what? It just might be the miraculous “something” you’ve been looking for! Next time, we’ll discuss execution.

Getting it done and handling your business is hard work and you cannot do it alone. Remember, I’m here to help!

Contact Dr. G for your coaching session so you can handle your business where you do business!

©2013 – “Dr. G Speaks” – Dr. Gail Hayes

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Getting it done…

firstchoicephotodrG_n“Getting it done means many things to many people. But for me, it’s just handling my business wherever I choose to do business!” Dr. G Speaks

Whenever I start a project I always think in terms of three steps. I listen. I understand. And then, I execute. Listening is not just hearing. For me it involves research. When I discover new facts about something, it’s the same as listening. I talk to people who have expertise in that area or I read what they have to say.

I inhale the research and allow it to saturate my mind. I process it to see what works best for me. If the information doesn’t stick or it’s not what I need at the time, I file it away. It may be needed for something or someone else. I always try and remember that it may not be needed for me but for another person’s journey. It’s a fantastic feeling to be able to contribute to another person’s success or to help them find peace! Remember…information is a powerful gift! Next time, we’ll discuss understanding.

Getting it done and handling your business is hard work and you cannot do it alone. Remember, I’m here to help. Next time, we’ll discuss step two!

Contact Dr. G for your coaching session so you can handle your business where you do business!

©2013 – “Dr. G Speaks” – Dr. Gail Hayes

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Step III to Value

firstchoicephotodrG_n“I need what I need and I want what I want…and that’s OKAY!” Dr. G Speaks

There have been many times when others have criticized me for not agreeing with them or seeing things their way. Their negative comments were like commanders at war in their personal campaign to belittle me. After years of allowing these wars to rage in my territory, I discovered something. I was settling and doing things to please others because I thought this was the fastest way to peace. I wanted others to like me. Bust guess what? They didn’t like me anymore after I agreed with them than before I gave in to pressure.

Others had peace but I had none! I then realized that I had to value me by valuing my thoughts, actions, and decisions. In other words, things needed to “show up” the way that I needed and not the way that others needed. I now have a personal motto of, “I need what I need and I want what I want and that’s OKAY!”

On your journey to value, you must KNOW how you need and want things to show up in your life. Once you’ve identified how and what you need and want, then no one can devalue you or what you bring to the table. You can sit in your reserved seat and enjoy your peace. If someone chooses to try and devalue you, give them the option to sit some place else!

Always remember…you are the only one who can handle your business the way that you like it!

Contact Dr. G for your coaching session so you can handle your business where you do business!

©2013 – “Dr. G Speaks” – Dr. Gail Hayes

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Step II to Val…

firstchoicephotodrG_n“Not everyone can see your value. Those blinded by selfishness cannot read the lovely messages written  upon the pages of your essence…” Dr. G Speaks

The next step involves  your cleaning house. Who speaks into your life? Take a close look at the people who surround you. Do you feel uplifted after leaving their presence? Do you believe, without a doubt that they care for your well being? If their counsel is consistently laced with negative focus and you feel as if you’re carrying a heavy weight after being with them,  it may be time to “cut the cords” and move on. Good friends will always tell you the truth, but it will always be drenched in love. You’ll be able to “feel the love” even when they have to tell you something you may not want to hear.

Handling your business is hard work and you cannot do it alone. Remember, I’m here to help. Next time, we’ll discuss step three!

Contact Dr. G for your coaching session so you can handle your business where you do business!

©2013 – “Dr. G Speaks” – Dr. Gail Hayes

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Three Steps to Value…

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“No one will value you until you value yourself. When you accept and embrace that person called you…all mountains will move!”

Dr. G Speaks

One thing I’ve learned…you cannot make others love, honor, respect, or value you. You must do that for yourself. How do you begin the process? How do you move from feeling unloved, dishonored, disrespected and devalued? Here is step one of three:

Write and speak a new declaration over your life. Even if you have difficulty seeing yourself as valuable, write it anyway. There is power in the process! Get a mirror and talk to that awesome person called you. Read what you’ve written until the words adhere themselves to your mental landscape. Speak it until you inhale the aroma of the new you and you savor the freshness of bread baked in heaven’s kitchen… just for you!  So, handle your business where you do business and develop your first step! Next time, we’ll discuss step two!

Need help developing your steps? Remember I’m ready to help.

Contact Dr. G for your coaching session so you can handle your business where you do business!

©2013 – “Dr. G Speaks” – Dr. Gail Hayes

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