“Hand mirrors can be a girl’s best friend. They can also be used as weapons…when in the wrong hands. The trick is choose your own mirror in your own style and then to keep it close so that it doesn’t fall into those wrong hands.” Dr. G Speaks
Although I am the first born of seven children, served as the first African American female law enforcement officer and firefighter in a southern city, and even became the first African American Chair of a County Commission for women, I never saw myself as a leader. I didn’t trust the image I saw in my hand mirror. Although people called me for counsel and I was always asked to lead projects, I still did not see myself as a leader.
So many times, we behold ourselves in mirrors that others provide. We did not choose the style or the color. We did not choose the quality, nor did we choose the timing in which they held up the mirror. Hey, there are times when I just don’t want to look in the mirror because I’m not wearing my makeup.
I now know that it doesn’t matter what others say or how others see me. All that matters is that I have purchased my own mirror in my chosen color and style. It is just what I need and it reflects all that I am. It doesn’t lie. It doesn’t show a false reflection of who I am but it does show me the real me. And guess what?That works for me!
What about you? Are you ready to do some mirror time?
Holding your mirror while leading others and handling your business is hard work and you cannot do it alone. Remember, I’m here to help!
©2014 – “Dr. G Speaks” – Dr. Gail Hayes
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